Role plays?

“En häpee täällä sitä mitä sä näät,
vaan sitä minkä kätken, mun epäelämää.
Pelkään, et kaikille paljastuu et mä oon –
sellanen kun mä oon.”
Pyhimys – Jättiläinen

In 2014 I’ve written a poem that fits perfectly to today’s blog text. I named the poem “Primadonna” and it goes like this:

Behind a curtain was a door, sign saying ‘primadonna’
there she was sitting looking at her collection.
Over the ages collected from the world,
every cabinet carefully filled.

Always before the show primadonna wandered around,
thinking what kind of role she would take today,
what kind of costume she would wear.
Would she be kind neighbour, a loyal partner?
Or a trusted friend, always pleasing everyone?

Finally she found a costume that the viewers will like.
Finishing touches, make up and primadonna is ready for the show.
The show went perfectly, primadonna did precisely her part.
But she didn’t realize her part in this show,
she always choose her role according to who was watching.

Does the poems primadonna sound familiar? We each have somekind of role in this life. As a matter of fact it might be that we have multiple roles. We need roles to define how we behave in different situations. For example with a spouse we act differently compared to our child or our friend. Some of our roles have been selected consciously and some might exist even that we recognize their existence.

Roles a part of our life from the beginning. We’ve been told how we should be, what is expected from us. Might be that some our roles have been with us since we were children. It might also be that we think that we are not accepted as we are. We play the role because we’re uncertain and afraid to show to others who we really are. On the other hand roles make possible that we have the courage to do things, go outside of our comfort zone because we have the role to support us.

We can’t go throught this life without having a some role at some point. However how different roles we have I hope that to every role we could bring a pinch of ourselves. I wouldn’t like that people feel like that they have to play a certain role so that they would be accepted in this world. I would like it so that everyone can be who they are – regardless of the role.

With love, Anu-Maarit