“I see the heavens each time that you smile.
I hear your heartbeat just go on for miles.
And suddenly I know why life is worthwhile.
That’s what I see through your eyes.”
Carole Bayer Sager & David Foster – Looking through your eyes
Every girl is surely familiar with fairytales where damsel is in distress and prince charming save the day. Those who have grewn up in Disney world are familiar with Prince Charming, Prince Phillip, Prince Eric, Aladding, John Smith and others. The pattern is always the same: the prince saves the princess, charmes her and they live happily ever after.
As an adult we easily look for our own Prince Charming. We’re looking for ah so wonderful-relationship where we’re the whole world to our partners. We want to be princesses, handled by silk gloves by our princes who are willing to do anything for us. Everyday is like dancing on roses and our prince will never fail us. We believe that we have our happily ever after.
Those fairytales which we heard as a child, taught us that it’s the man’s job to make us feel ourselves special. That the man should be polite, observant, charming, lovely etc. Love is when man is ready to anything for the woman and can’t live without her. So we are made believe.
So what about the men then? If it’s to believe the fairytales then men are under unconscionable pressure. There should be nothing else in life than woman. Man should exist for woman whenever she needs. Remember manners and take into account both with words and actions.
What if inside of every man lives a little prince who is in desperate need for attention? What if men would like to feel themselves important? What if men would like to get support and help? Feel that they are seen and heard as they are? That there’s someone to whom they’re special? What if occasionally we would change roles?
Nowadays there’s a constant talk of equal roles. In modern relationship happily ever after is not only the man’s responsibility. It is both the prince and princess job to make sure that each will be seen, heard, appreciated and loved just as they are.
With love, Anu-Maarit